Welcome back to the blog! In this blog post and the next, we are focusing on early-stage dating. Despite the fact that I have been married for 25 years, I love talking about dating. I am cheering the loudest for those of you who are searching for love.
Always have. Always will. Dating and Relational Self-Awareness go together like chocolate and peanut butter. Let me tee up this blog series:. My goal with this article, however, is to help you improve your relationship with these apps , if you choose to use them.
I want to talk about what it is about dating apps that evokes anxiety and frustration and how you can use dating apps as a helpful tool, to think of them as one of many spaces in your life that you could potentially connect with an interesting human, rather than feeling trapped in what feels like an endless game of swiping that leads nowhere. And, I hope to empower you to take back your agency and reimagine wink wink the way you interact with these apps.
How did we get here? In some ways, making use of dating apps is not at all significant because people who are looking for love have always had an intermediary of some kind:. Historically and in many parts of the world today, family members arrange marriages for their young adult children.
Years ago, people looking for love placed classified ads in newspapers. Then with the creation of the world wide web, dating websites. And today of course dating apps have become the high-tech intermediary. According to FinancesOnline. Data from the Pew Research Center shows that 3 in 10 Americans have used a dating app. Because dating apps create a sense of endless options which can spike anxiety, urgency, and indecision. They cultivate the sense that my job as a dater is to swipe until I find the right person which can shift attention away from the most important task of dating which is becoming the right person.
