After my dates, I usually send a long voice note to a friend or two. Right after the last date, I even called my sister, half drunk, and stated this could not get worse. For a few months, I was a bit skeptical about this last point. The first thing that comes to mind when thinking about dating culture in New York is that it makes it easy for you to feel disposable.
It could be sex, a nice dinner in an expensive restaurant, or for me to be your therapist for the night over two martinis. It could be all of these and everything in between, but the possibility of a serendipitous, deep connection seems missing from every equation. However, this feeling of not being enough and that you could always find someone better is not something exclusive to the dating culture in New York.
Basically, the main reasons why almost every one of us came to this particular city in the first place. For this last item, I have also realized they got the whole concept of spontaneity wrong. In a recent article published in The Atlantic , writer Hannah Giorgis asks herself through the analysis of two books named the same, The End of Love , a hard and real question for all of us navigating the dating universe: Why does dating today feel like work?
Also, as a feminist woman in her late 20s, the desires, wants, and needs present during dating experiences can feel exhausting and contradictory.
Giorgis starts by addressing the issue through a modern product I already mentioned and would say is the evil of our time: dating apps. A woman without a partner […] must be lonely, as happiness can only flourish between two people. These contradictions also exist in pop culture today, with artists like Taylor Swift and Lana del Rey rising in popularity among millennials and centennial teenage girls and women.
