Hey RVA daters. After all, who wants to compare other people to edible combinations of fats, proteins and sugars? And who really wants to think of their love life as an extension of the dining and digestion process? You know you need food to survive, but you also hope that it tastes good so you can move beyond mere survival into some sort of enjoyment. Dating is a lot like that. We all have basic needs, whether they are the need for companionship, emotional support, sexual fulfillment, and so on.
Like with food, we are just looking for the basics. But, thanks to evolution which has at least affected most of our population , we want to go beyond having a purely functional relationship. Just like with food, we want an experience that is enjoyable. If anything, you probably think that more choices means more chances for meeting a normal guy or gal who will actually be a good fit for you. To a certain extent you are right. I mean, you do have to keep looking. But you also need to be willing to settle at some point.
My goal at the end of the day is still for all of us to have meaningful and long-lasting relationships. In fact, when you open up too many possibilities, you will find yourself unable to commit to one, and you will never be satisfied. You need to intentionally close off some possibilities so that you can work with a smaller group of options and experience more genuine connections. After an average date, go on a second date with the same person. But if you have a decent time, challenge yourself to go out again and see where things lead.
Date online less frequently. Go out of your way to create some dating possibilities that start offline. This should help keep you from comparing that person quite as much to other people. Shorten your list of criteria. Seriously, the shape of his toes is only so important.
Now, this will technically expand your dating choices, but it will limit your pickiness, which is actually even better. At the end of the day, folks, I want you all to find Mr.
