Have you ever wondered how some women get masculine men to become their puppets and win in the relationship? The guy is handsome, healed, generous, and faithful. It just feels effortless to those women. But on your end, you struggle even to get a text back on time. No great guy is willing to pay your rent, and you have nothing more than casual hookups.
When you meet a guy you like, you get excited. You think, "Thank God! Finally, someone who looks like his pics and doesn't lie about his height! In the beginning, you are in this relationship gig, thinking it's all rainbows and butterflies. After a while, It becomes a wild ride and not always smooth. You are falling hard for him but don't see his energy coming back your way. Then, suddenly, you enter the world of power dynamics and feel like you are not driving the relationship bus.
No worries, I am here to chat about the ins and outs of relationship power moves and spill the tea on how to gain the upper hand in a relationship so that masculine men can become your puppet. Having the upper hand is knowing that the guy is going nowhere. He is just obsessed with you. He's a fan, and you give him a chance. It's not about playing toxic games. It's about being securely attached while knowing you're a real catch. This is the kind of woman a healthy man is looking for.
Let's simplify. There's this silent dance of affection in every love story, right? At the start, one person is more into the other person than the other way around. It's like you are on different love levels; it's no big deal. But as time passes, you match up, and that's a different story. For you to have the upper hand means to feel like he's going nowhere. You need to start the relationship on the right foot.
He needs to be the one falling for you first. You will always be asking for more attention. He will always feel unpredictable. All of this will trigger anxious attachment.
