Hey Bestie: What's the best way to ask someone to be a 'friend with benefits'? I just don't have the time for a proper relationship right now but I miss sex and I'm not keen on one night stands. I have a friend who I'd love to ask but I just don't know how to start the conversation. Also, do you have any advice about what the ground rules should be? So, what I am hearing is that sex is great and relationships take time and effortβ¦correct! It also sounds like for whatever reasons, at the moment, the effort required for a relationship is just simply not available to you.
Is the friend available? Would the friend be open to the concept of friends with benefits? Is this friend likely to get emotionally attached? If so, you might want to find someone else, especially if you are attempting to stay away from relationships. If you approach your friend without knowing the above and the friend does not feel the same way about you, you might land in an uncomfortable situation. Some of the ground rules should include whether the both of you are sticking to a single partner, or whether you can have multiple friends with benefits.
One of the best things that you can do is be clear with what you are looking for, and if you think your friend might feel the same, be honest while also being open to the fact that they might not be interested. Good luck! She is also a certified speaking professional and has written several books on relationships, health and business which have sold more than , copies.
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