Is it possible for opposites to achieve long-lasting love? This is an age old question that peaks my interest for many reasons both personally and professionally. So what does this all mean in terms of a couples staying power? Recent research suggests that the happiest couples become more similar over time. Indeed, birds of a feather also need to flock together.
Perhaps the key to staying happy is to have a strong desire to learn and grow with your partner. In other words, to learn to use your experiences together to help you grow closer. This may sound boring, but some couples find that adapting and changing in their relationships is actually one of the most exciting aspects of being part of a couple.
Pillemer, Ph. Sharing core values has also been found to promote marital stability and happiness. According to many experts, another crucial aspect of long-lasting love is chemistry. In other words, you feel that you can be yourself. You feel safe in the relationship. You have real affection and passion for each other. This is where sexual chemistry comes in and it should go hand and hand with affection.
You accept, admire, and respect each other for who you are. Compatibility is essential for a relationship to last. For instance, Jena came to my office stating that her live-in boyfriend Tom had been complaining about her being too shy and a homebody.
Unsurprisingly, when couples have vastly different core values and life goals this can make for a lot of friction in a relationship. In the end, they both agreed that tying the knot given their differences could only increase the likelihood of a breakup in the future.
