I am about the control. I want to stand alone , I want to be different, I wanted to be someone my slave had never experienced. Sitting back and looking at the progress, changing someone for the better, changing someones thought process, changing habits, training. Training someone to fit your needs. Training one to drop to their knees on command, or to spread on command, with either a voice command or a simple hand gesture.
It is about the control, the ability to control ones actions and thoughts, now that is deep. Now here is the thing, all of the above comes with a huge price tag, the above comes with huge responsibility , and then you have the saying be careful what you ask for, because once you start to unlock all of those door as you open each door the price tag becomes larger. You get the clingy part, you get the needy , and in most cases you get the bad word codependent part , not always but this is true in most cases.
Submission not only runs on different levels, but it runs deep, and each one is different , each has different needs , but in the end the outcome is the same. You have a submissive who craves to be trained, loved and cared for. So if your in it just for the pussy , or you want your dick sucked just ask. If your not in it for the long haul why would you want to try and put all the steps above into place when you have zero intentions of following through?
In the end that is way to much work and time to invest just to get some head. Then you have the other Dominant , the fuck with your head, trying to get over on you, bull shitting his way through a relationship that is never going to happen. You end up sitting all alone waiting on a text or an email, crying wondering what you did wrongโฆ. Then you have the poor me Dominant, the wish I was a better Dom.
The Dominant who promises to fix what ever is wrong but really has no intentions of doing anything. The Dominant who cannot keep his temper under control. The Dominant who uses fear and humiliation to keep you in checkโฆ. The Dominant who tell you , you are stupid , your nothing without himโฆ.
